Most agree that porn is bad but few attempt to articulate why. It's one of those memes you're supposed to just agree with. Porn icky. Porn bad. Porn make everything bad. Yes porn bad. Why porn is bad is not what most people want to hear. If you agree that porn is bad then you also agree a priori that locking a woman you're attracted to in a basement, chaining her to the radiator as your sex slave and feeding her nothing but Gatorade (if she behaves) is good. Which way, very online Twitter anon?
When you do NoFap in the short term, that's generally very beneficial, but once you go long term (different limit for different people, but like 30+ days for me), you enter a 'dormant' mode regarding your libido. It's very similar to fasting, most people will go crazy not eating for 48 hours but once you cross that limit, you enter this 'fasting' phase where your hunger goes into dormancy. Eventually it does wake up (like 3-4 weeks later, because you need to eat to survive) and hunger comes back with vengeance.
Similarly, the first peak happens (around 30 day into it), and you feel like you wanna fuck anything or anybody. I was messaging monstrosities and abominations on dating sites, just to get a chance to be able to nut (without masturbation). Then a certain serenity takes over, and the brain starts to work in a long-term perspective. It helped me get out of my rut, raised my testosterone levels baseline enough that I would talk to girls, ask them out on dinner, and try to take them to my place. Rejection had NO EFFECT on me (thanks to higher baseline testosterone, probably), whereas earlier it would have killed me.
Eventually it helped me increase my fuck rate, gain enough experience to find the girl perfect for me. The experience was totally different when I tried it as a committed man. 2 weeks of NoFap and you enter a low-libido depression. Overall my opinion about masturbation is that it is like it is a lot like being a responsible gun owner. You may get to use your gun in real life, but you should still go to the range regularly and practice. Don't make it all about the range though and do go out and face real danger.
One more thing which I learned from my NoFap experiences is that you shouldn't always fap to 8-9.5 women, rather making yourself fap to fat/ugly/old girls (esp after your NoFap session) enhances your enjoyment of the real women, rather than making your brain feel jaded because the real life will feel better than the fantasy. Ofc you can't just keep doing it. After few days move up to the more attractive girls, then few days of NoFap, rinse and repeat.
Great article, just my feedback.
When you do NoFap in the short term, that's generally very beneficial, but once you go long term (different limit for different people, but like 30+ days for me), you enter a 'dormant' mode regarding your libido. It's very similar to fasting, most people will go crazy not eating for 48 hours but once you cross that limit, you enter this 'fasting' phase where your hunger goes into dormancy. Eventually it does wake up (like 3-4 weeks later, because you need to eat to survive) and hunger comes back with vengeance.
Similarly, the first peak happens (around 30 day into it), and you feel like you wanna fuck anything or anybody. I was messaging monstrosities and abominations on dating sites, just to get a chance to be able to nut (without masturbation). Then a certain serenity takes over, and the brain starts to work in a long-term perspective. It helped me get out of my rut, raised my testosterone levels baseline enough that I would talk to girls, ask them out on dinner, and try to take them to my place. Rejection had NO EFFECT on me (thanks to higher baseline testosterone, probably), whereas earlier it would have killed me.
Eventually it helped me increase my fuck rate, gain enough experience to find the girl perfect for me. The experience was totally different when I tried it as a committed man. 2 weeks of NoFap and you enter a low-libido depression. Overall my opinion about masturbation is that it is like it is a lot like being a responsible gun owner. You may get to use your gun in real life, but you should still go to the range regularly and practice. Don't make it all about the range though and do go out and face real danger.
One more thing which I learned from my NoFap experiences is that you shouldn't always fap to 8-9.5 women, rather making yourself fap to fat/ugly/old girls (esp after your NoFap session) enhances your enjoyment of the real women, rather than making your brain feel jaded because the real life will feel better than the fantasy. Ofc you can't just keep doing it. After few days move up to the more attractive girls, then few days of NoFap, rinse and repeat.
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Really enjoy these essays. Thank you.