Today I ran a little experiment with Dumb Bitch Capital LLC to give both a male and female perspective on relationship questions. We answered all of them separately so we didn’t influence each other’s answers.
Nothing has been edited. Enjoy.
Med Gold: The best place to meet a girl is a bar. Ignore what people say about “women are bars are sluts”, they’re prudes and that isn’t true. Everyone is more loose, a little drunk and having a good time at a bar. They’re more open to being approached then they otherwise would be while out and about.
Dumb Bitch Capital: Dog parks, networking events, parties, yoga, HIIT/ Boxing classes, conferences, comedy shows, any kind of “Class” like scuba diving cooking dancing etc, Team sports, literally any social gathering don't be stuck up or have an ego about it. Also touristy things that often get a lot of out of town travelers often have very friendly people, sometimes single.
Med Gold: Honestly, yes. Men are more likely to cheat than women. Women usually cheat out of resentment; the man she’s cheating on is typically lacking in a particular area or fell off. Every now and then a woman will get seduced or has a wild night out with her friends and shit happens. But aside from that, it’s usually personal. Men cheat for less personal reasons. So if the man loves her more than she does, chances are he doesn’t hold a dominant role in the relationship, therefore he very likely won’t cheat, and a major variable in the relationship ending is removed. That being said, if he’s more into her than she’s into him, that’s a bad sign. She might look elsewhere and very well may cheat. Whether or not he ever finds out or is willing to put up with that is another matter. But it reduces the chances than if it were the other way around.
Dumb Bitch Capital: That’s the only kind of relationship that can work.
Med Gold: You’re not necessarily doing anything wrong. Note that dating on X as an anon is extremely high risk, so be careful. That being said it is the most effective dating app there is, especially for anons, because people are showing who they really are. You’ll learn way more about someone by what they post anonymously than some cringe set of Hinge questions. Regardless, there are way more women in the real world who aren’t on X than are, so you absolutely should not give up and pursue those options too.
Dumb Bitch Capital: Are you a simp? Desperation is unattractive — focus on developing some confidence. Take time off from trying to meet girls and spend time on interests/ self-improvement. Girls aren’t going to be attracted to you if you’re like “wahh what’s wrong with me 😭“… Deep down on a tribal level we want someone to protect us, not a wimp who screams in a high pitched shrill when he sees a spider. That’s the vibe you give off when you aren’t confident. Maybe your expectations are too high right now too. If you’re going for 7’s and you’re a 3, you’re gonna have a bad time. Get your shit together so you’re a 4 then go for a 6 instead (who thinks she’s a 5).
Med Gold: Do you have children yet or are you just talking about it? Two kids is good, though I get why you want more. A thousand sounds like you’re just talking about it, possibly romanticizing a tradlife fantasy. If you’re just talking about it, I would see how you feel after having one. If you already have kids, just nut in her more often.
Dumb Bitch Capital: Prove to her that you can provide and are DAD MATERIAL by building a crib from scratch with your bare hands with wood that you chopped yourself … if that doesn’t work, send her TikToks of cute babies and puppies.
Med Gold: Lindy. No issues with it. Ignore what people on X say about it. Do what you feel is best.
Dumb Bitch Capital: In Miami this isn’t even an age gap. I don’t see the issue.
Med Gold: The average man is a low T joke of a man. The average is going to get worse over time. Men who stand out and aren’t spiritual faggots will continue to stretch out the pareto distribution and get the majority of the hot women. It’s never been easier and will continue to get easier. Women’s standards now are basically “don’t be poor and don’t be a faggot.”
Dumb Bitch Capital: 5 years in the future, life-like sex dolls will be programmed with AI to be submissive Trad-Caths. It’s so over.
*Med interrupts DBC* “I’ve written about about this, DBC just stole my ideas.”
Med Gold: Yes this is real. Neediness turns them off, detachment makes them wonder what they did wrong, so they stay interested. There’s a delicate balance to play here especially in the early stages. It isn’t good to play this game long-term though. Eventually you need to feel comfortable around each other and know the chemistry is real. The ideal state is to know that you will be fine no matter who you’re with, but this requires you getting your heart broken more than once.
Dumb Bitch Capital: Why are you ever not thinking of her? That’s soooooo rude. I think you need to DEFINE the relationship. Y’all are playing games with each other and it’s stressing me out, and I don’t even KNOW either of you….
Med Gold: Keep doing it. As you get older you’re going to need to stay thin and vivacious to keep attracting men. Men are very attracted to a woman’s energy, just as much as they are physically. Of course physical matters more, but the energy shouldn’t be overlooked. The high energy woman in her 30’s is very attractive, which comes easy given that women are by far their horniest in their 30’s. Ideally you lock one down so you don’t have to worry about this for too long.
Dumb Bitch Capital: This never gets old, LOL. Men love this sh*t, keep it up girl. Come up with an autistic rant of your own to test if he’s a real one.
Med Gold: Depends. I’m not all or nothing on this question. If she wants a little botox to prevent winkles, that’s fine. If she wants lip fillers to puff out her lips slightly and has thin lips, it’s fine. If she wants to entirely change the shape of her face with fillers though, that isn’t good. But she needs to respect your opinion enough to where if you tell her she shouldn’t get any more or she’s going too far, she’s going to listen to you.
Dumb Bitch Capital: Men have this vision of a duck lipped uncanny valley Bogdanoff face when they hear the word “Botox”. That's so not it. Botox is just an expensive way to stop wrinkles from deepening. This is a very positive sign that at the tender age of just 23 your GF is already exploring options to enhance her appearance long term. I applaud her, but make sure you tell her she DOESN’T NEED these things!!!!!
Med Gold: You’re gonna need to flip a coin here. Go on a date with both of them, whichever one you have the most fun with on the 2nd date wins. Make them compete without knowing it.
Dumb Bitch Capital: Doctors are so pretentious…and a Harvard med student? Insufferable. This dude definitely thinks he’s the second coming. The other guy going into real estate though…in 2023… is he brain damaged? He must be because of the Football. Why are you even hedging the perfect pre-med Harvard guy with this real estate football punk if tall Harvard guy is so perfect on paper? It’s because his personality sucks doesn’t it. Guys over 6 ft rarely develop a personality similar to hot girls who never had an ugly phase. Take the real estate guy.